Again With the Question: Are Our Standards Too High????

Kuuleme T. Stephens

I wrote the piece below back in January of this year, and I have been feeling the need to revisit the question due to many conversations on Facebook and the upcoming election. I noticed that on both sides of the aisle (both Democrat and Republican) that there are things that each Parties hardcore base will frown upon and tend to exclude people just because they don’t fit into their little box. I am naming a few examples of what I mean by this. I won’t list them all, because if I had to do that, I might as well write a book!! Lol!!! Some of the things I am going to say, some of you won’t like, but…….it has to be said! On the Democrat side of the aisle, if you have worked hard, made something of yourself, are upset about being taxed too much and paying for those who CHOOSE not to do the same, then you are tossed to the side because you don’t fit into their little box. If you disagree with their views on Illegal Immigration or Gay Marriage, you are also cast aside. No matter what the reasons are that you disagree (and there are many if you know math), you are cast aside, called a racist, and shut out.

The Democrats seem to have turned their base completely against Black Conservatives as well. If you are a Black Conservative you will face very harsh ridicule and  be called names and racial slurs. They have even gone as far as to cast Black Conservatives out of the Black Community claiming that they are self-hating and are trying to be White (even though I have yet to be one that has renounced their Blackness)  just because they don’t care for Obama or the Democrat Party. They don’t seem to care that these same Black Conservatives are posting facts to show why their opinions are different, all they seem to care about is that they don’t care for Obama and they are not a Democrat therefore they are not apart of their Community.

(except from my Facebook Page) “Folks, let me make something very clear here. Just because a Black person doesn’t like Obama DOES NOT mean they are self-hating. It means they are voting on things other than the color of ones skin pigmentation. Blacks come in all colors now, by the way….. Black Liberals and White supporters of Obama, the self-hating comments and the name calling is getting OLD. REALLY??? Is that the best you can do since that FACTS are not on your side??? And you Racist Pro-Black Liberals, please SHUT UP!!! Look at Africa….Just because you are Black does not mean you should be running a Country. The Africans are killing each other every day and MANY haven’t progressed out of poverty. They are all ran by Black men and look at how that is working for them!!! That is why so many Africans immigrate to the United States. Also, the Democrats want to keep you POOR!!! Look at all of the Democrat Districts…..They are POOR and always have been POOR!!! You would think that their Democrat Leaders would have made a change or had an effect on them by now if indeed they were working for you!!! Especially since there is a Democrat controlled House and a Democrat POTUS right now!!! You can’t blame the Republicans there!!!! But NO, instead you choose to lash out against the Blacks who have succeeded and are off the Democrat Plantation because that is what you are taught to do…….And you say we’re the one’s who are brainwashed….SHEESH……”On the Republican side of the aisle, you have your far Religious Right that seem to turn people away and exclude others. For example, the Gay Community. It is hard to want to be a Republican if you are Gay and the Left is more accepting of them even if they do not share the majority of their views. When I see folks that are on the far Religious Right posting onto my page, with some of the things that are stated it’s no wonder the Republican Party is known as “hating” the Gay Community.

I posed this question on my Facebook Page a couple of days ago:

“Ok folks, I’m going to post on a touchy topic right now. Why is it that when a Democrat Leader comes out as Gay, that person is deemed brave and praised; but if a Republican comes out of the closet, the Left will call them foul names and create a living hell for that person??? Also,   (as I differ than a lot of Religious people on Gays due to the fact that I believe the Bible says to condemn the act not the person themselves) Why is it that Republican Party allows the media to dictate their involvement with the Gay Leader (that I view as being equally brave as a Democrat one, if not more so due to the Religious Right, for coming out) and force the Republican Leader out of office???”

I was amazed  and stunned at some of the things that were said by some of the far Religious Right. For being self-proclaimed Christians (as displayed on their Facebook Pages), they displayed a hatred of another person, instead of the act itself. From my Religious background and studies, you are taught to hate the act, the Bible itself does not condone the hatred of the actual person themselves. This type of behavior especially causes me concern as the Republican Party is battling the Left on whether or not the Party does actually exclude people or not. If a person were to read the feed on my Facebook Page, they would walk away thinking that the majority of Republicans/and or Conservatives, because they say they are Christians, are against they Gay Community. The conversation looked as if there were Conservatives battling Liberals over Obama at times!  It also wasn’t an easy of question to ask, considering it’s easier to take on a Liberal for most Conservatives, but it is harder to tackle topics closer to home and of conflict within the Party itself as many have different views on this topic.

Here is the original posting that I wrote:

January 24, 2012

Politics today have become such a mess that no one knows who to vote for or what to vote for anymore. We have to worry about our Politicians lying, cheating, having affairs, and numerous other bad qualities which we choose to demonize as we choose. Can anyone tell me when exactly, we as the human race became more powerful than GOD??? The Bible as I read it says that God is the judge of all men, so when did we become the judge and jury able to ruin other people lives and hold them to standards that we ourselves can’t even live up to??? Is there a hidden rule that I missed that states once you enter political office you must be perfect and have no human faults???

Our Country has a Religion, a Constitution, and laws that set basic guidelines for us to follow. These guidelines are set in order to make us the best people we can be in this life. Nowhere in either of those does it state one must be perfect in order to be a good person. Everyone makes mistakes, the only difference then is, if you learn from those mistakes and take steps to correct them. Now that being said, are there bad people in this world??? The answer to that would be yes. People who knowingly do “bad things” for personal gain can be considered bad people. Can people change??? The answer is yes, but some choose not to. It is not up to us to condemn them though; someone else already has that job.

So many people in Politics and other Public Figure positions have been hurt and destroyed while either running as Public Figure or being in a Public Figure position. It’s not just the people in the limelight that get hurt and destroyed either, their friends and family suffer along the way as well. Slander, the public broadcast of personal lives, moral misdeeds, and breaking of laws are not contained to one political party either. For example: Herman Cain, Bill Clinton, George Bush Jr., Barrack Obama, Martin Luther King Jr., Ted Kennedy, John F. Kennedy, Ron Paul to name a few. How are we ever to elect a candidate for any position of power if we hold them all to the standards of a perfect being or a God???? Do we ever truly know who a person is or what is in their heart??? In addition, how are we ever to find any of this out if we are judging them right off the bat without even looking at circumstances or the realities of the world surrounding the events???

I am going to use myself as an example on this one. I will probably lose friends (I have already lost a lot of family members and friends along the way already) so it does not really bother me. Most people know me as a proud mother, a Navy Veteran, and a very outspoken female Black Conservative. Most people would also say that I am a good person and many have asked me to run for a Political Office. That is only part of who I am. I have been many things during my lifetime. I will list some of them for you:

     1.     Mother

     2.     Cheerleader and Cheerleading Coach

     3.     Bible Bowl Youth Group Member/Church Member

     4.     Girl Scout

     5.     Ballet Teacher

     6.     Counselor

     7.     Navy Hospital Corpsman/Honor Guard Member

     8.     Ordained Minister

     9.     Nursing Assistant

     10.  Conservative, DAV Life Time Member, NRA Member, and Tea Party Member

However, I have also been:

      1.     Stripper

     2.     Adult Movie Actress

     3.     Hooters Girl

     4.     Male Strip Club Manager

     5.     Democrat

     6.     A Single Unwed Mother

     7.     A Welfare Recipient

     8.     Homeless

     9.     Bi-Polar

     10.  A person known not to have problems with homosexuals (except on the right to marry in the Christian Church).

Will that change some people’s opinions of me, of course it will. Do I care??? Quite frankly, NO! EVERYONE has a skeleton in their closet whether they choose to admit it or not, and if they won’t they are not being honest with themselves. I have never claimed to be perfect. I have never purposely hidden who I am from people. I can very easily be found on the internet just like everyone else. I also would never run for political office because I know the people of this Country and Media would drag my family, my friends, and me though pure hell in doing so.

Where people in Public Standing go wrong is: They try to purposely hide their mistakes and place themselves in the position of being looked to as a God and not a human being. When these secrets are dug up (and they will be dug up by one side or the other), then they are scrutinized even more for being a liar on top of the misdeeds they tried to cover up in the first place.

Where the General Public goes wrong is: We place such high standards on public figures that it is very easy to tear them down. Most of the General Public can’t even meet the standards we hold our Public Figures to. So why does everyone get so upset and disappointed when a Public Figure falls??? Why do we all continue to act so surprised that these Public Figures are human just like us???

Therefore, in closing I will leave you with this:

Before we look to judge and condemn our Public Figures, we should first look to ourselves to see if our own house is clean. Before we look to ruin other people’s lives and the lives of their friends and families, we should check to see if the error they made was an error made out of being human, or an intentionally “bad” error that they purposely made out of truly being a truly “evil” person with the worst of intentions. When we as a Country are able to define the difference between the two, then and only then will we be able to elect a President and all other Political Figures suitable to run this Country the way it should be……

Now, I pose the same questions to both Democrat and Republicans: Are our standards too high??? Do we expect to much from our politicians and from each other??? And are the standards that we hold one another too, helping in keeping this Nation divided??? How do we begin to solve these issues???? Are these issues even able to be solved???

If you get the chance, PLEASE take the time to order a copy of this book! “White Folks Guide to Understanding the Black Community, and Get Out the Vote”. My co-author of the Last Civil Right, Pastor Shannon Wright, and I wrote it I and I think most of you would enjoy reading the information that is written in the book!

Here is a brief description of the book:

White Folks Guide to Understanding the Black Community, and Getting Out the Vote is about just that. It is the who we are, what we want, and get out the vote guide for White folks trying to understand the Black community.It includes stories and anecdotes to give you a new understanding of the dynamics and factors in the Black community that make us who we are. At our core we are all the same regardless of color, we want the same things: income, a home, and security for our families. The question is how do we work together to get it.

PLUS* Education, Healthcare, Welfare, and Tax reform we can all live with!

Proceeds from the book are going towards the FGM World Outreach Ministries and Power 101 Gospel Radio for their Food Drive!!! They want to be able to feed 100 or more families for Thanksgiving and Christmas!!!

You can find the book here:


About Kuuleme Stephens

I am a Mother/Actress/Model/Singer and Navy Veteran. I am also a Republican Precinct Committeewoman. I am a Conservative Independent who speaks her mind very openly!!! I have appeared on CBS radio with Dan Rea and KLZ The Source with Kenneth Clark, and I hope to do more radio interviews in the future so Black Conservatives can have their voices heard across the nation! I am also a writer Co-Author of The Last Civil Right so drop in and check us out:

Posted on September 10, 2012, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. When I hit the first list, I thought, there she goes bragging. Once I got to the second, it was like wow, so open and honest. You have an awesome testimony and I respect you so much for sharing this. Keep up the good work sis.
    Your bro in Christ,

    • No, I was far from bragging in this one. I just think if people are going to like someone and be accepting of them, they need to like them for who they are not for what they are trying to represent. Too often do people get caught up and exclude others when their own houses aren’t clean!!!!

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