Slave Mentality vs. Entitlement Mentality: The Downfall of the Black American Community

Kuuleme T. Stephens

Slave Mentality vs. Entitlement Mentality

The Downfall of the Black American Community

 

I often hear people make the claim that Blacks (African Americans) were better off when they were slaves. I myself have been known to say such things when people piss me off and respond out of ignorance to a posting or article. My reason for making such an argument is if Black Americans are not going to stop living in the past and blaming other for their problems, we will never move forward as a people. To maintain a belief that you are owed something and entitled to things when you are doing nothing to help yourself is absurd. To stay ignorant as a lifestyle choice and have others (the government) take care of you and tell you what to do is exactly what the slaves did, and some continued to do even after they were freed. Now, none of us today are slaves. Chattel slavery was begun in America by the first Europeans. Importation of new slaves was outlawed in 1808, and Lincoln’s Emancipation Proclamation in 1865 declared the slaves in the Confederacy were free (a bit of a stretch because at the time he was not president of the states in which he outlawed slavery). However, person such as my Great Grandmother whose father and grandfather were slaves have a Slavery Mentality because they were raised by slaves and their opinions and beliefs were passed down as such. Today our Black American community suffers from a different “syndrome” and that is called the Entitlement Mentality, which to me has many attributes of the Slavery Mentality, but adds ignorance, laziness, and arrogance to the picture and is much more dangerous.

 

First, what is a Slave Mentality? Moreover, what is an Entitlement Mentality?

 

A slave mentality is when a person (definition is not bound by race):

Is one of feeling inferior or of feeling lost without hope, a feeling that we do not have the power to significantly alter our own circumstances. Another sad symptom of having a slave mentality is believing that White people are superior, have all the answers, and are empowered by GOD.

 

Or

 

A person conditioned to quietly, and without objection, accept harmful circumstances for themselves as the natural order of things. They’re also conditioned to accept their master’s view and beliefs, about themselves, and strive to get others, within their group, to accept the master’s view.

An Entitlement Mentality is (also not bound by race):

A state of mind in which the prevailing mentality of a society is that of entitlement to receive from the government or state what is apparently due to them or owed. This mentality may be held by gainfully employed workers who really do deserve more money/higher salaries etc or the unemployed who feel that it is the state’s responsibility to put bread in their bellies or beer in their empty mugs. In essence, this social disease is born/spawned from an unwillingness to accept personal responsibility for yourself as an individual in all aspects of your life.

 

In today’s society, we as Black Americans have so many more opportunities open to us. We are able to get an education, we are able to get good jobs, and we are able to live freely doing what we want to do in life if you’re willing to do what needs to be done to get there. To say there is racism today isn’t really a topic that I myself like to focus on because I’ve only felt it from my fellow Black Americans. I have never been called a nigger from a white person yet I have been called an Uncle Tom because of my political views, my way of speaking (because I don’t speak Ebonics and went to College), and a Race Trader because I am married to a Caucasian man and have a Mulatto child. Now I ask you, who are the racists?????

The deterioration of the Black American family is staggering. If you ask a young Black American what they want to be when they grow up, most will say they want to be a rapper/singer, football player, basketball player, or baseball player, etc and that is if they can tell you what they would like to be at all. No one tells them that only 0.03% make it to pro basketball, 0.08% make it pro football, and 0.45 make it pro baseball. We have a 40% dropout rate, for every 100,000 Black men in the U.S., 4,777 are in prison or jail, for every 100,000 Black American women, there are 743 in jail or prison, and 72% of Black American women, and teens are unwed mothers.

These problems are not the “white man’s” fault; this is our problem as a Black community. The more we teach our children that they are not good enough (because they are black), that they have the odds stacked against them (because they are black), that no one likes them (because they are black), that every problem can be solved by crying racism (because they are black), and that everyone owes them something (because they are black), the further down we go in this world as a community and as a people. Common sense can’t be taught, but family values, a love for God, getting an education, abstinence, and a zero tolerance for drugs can. This type of education begins in the home and nowhere else. It’s not up to the teachers, the church, or even the government’s responsibility to make sure our children are able to be functioning members of society, they are there to help reinforce the things that you should be teaching in the home.

The Black community needs better role models in order for a reconstruction of our community to take place. Our children look up to rappers, porn stars, actors, ball players, and even drug dealers and gangsters. They are bombarded with filth and demoralizing images everyday on TV and radio. They are taught that it is ok for them to disrespect their elders, have sex at 13, drop out of school, and have a drug habit (marijuana and prescription drugs included), that females are whores, and that it is cool to be in a gang and go to prison. Our Black community is killing its own by selling drugs such as crack, cocaine, acid, ecstasy, heroine, mushrooms, crystal meth, prescription medications (Vicodin, Percocet, Codeine, etc…), and marijuana.

The Black community needs to step up to the plate here. Quit being lazy and expecting everything to be handed to you. Quit throwing up race as a reason for you not getting what you want. Chances are you weren’t qualified for the position, have no education, or just plain didn’t apply yourself as you should have. People only use race to keep everyone divided and full of hate. Even our own supposed self-professed “Black leaders” are guilty of this (Al Sharpton Jesse Jackson etc…). Start educating you children, stop passing down ignorance and hate for self and others.

People are always talking about the “n” word and how demeaning it is, yet Black Americans use it as a term of endearment when it comes to hanging with their friends. Especially when we say it’s racist for white folks to use it but we as Blacks can. This is a setback all in itself. The word itself means ignorant, and any one from any race can be considered ignorant. Somewhat ironic that Black Americans call each other ignorant as an expression of friendship. How can we as a race expect to be treated any better if we ourselves are calling ourselves ignorant every other second??????

Point being, nobody is responsible for the downfall of the Black American community and family except our selves. The Slavery Mentality has been long gone and the Entitlement Mentality is harming us as Black Americans. Quit blaming others for your own mess and clean up you own homes. This problem is on our doorstep, not anyone else’s. If you don’t want to be called a nigger, and yes I said it, then quit calling yourselves that (whether it be with an “A” or an “ER”). Get off your ignorant ass’s and do something to change you situation. Create a better Black community for our children and give them better role models to look up too. Don’t define everything by race either, that only adds to the hate of one’s self and others. Encourage them to stay in school, be drug free, and abstinent. Help them to become functioning members of society.

Or do you still think you are entitled to something…………….

                                                                                                      Kuuleme T. Stephens

                                                                                                               2011

About Kuuleme Stephens

I am a Mother/Actress/Model/Singer and Navy Veteran. I am also a Republican Precinct Committeewoman. I am a Conservative Independent who speaks her mind very openly!!! I have appeared on CBS radio with Dan Rea and KLZ The Source with Kenneth Clark, and I hope to do more radio interviews in the future so Black Conservatives can have their voices heard across the nation! I am also a writer Co-Author of The Last Civil Right so drop in and check us out: http://www.thelastcivilright.org

Posted on October 11, 2011, in Black Community, Conservative, Racism, Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 76 Comments.

  1. Hi,
    Just wanted to say I like your articles, and your writing, for whatever that’s worth. You have it exactly right. It is very hard to respect someone who doesn’t respect themselves. It has absolutely nothing to do with race.

  2. I’m going to have to think about what you said here, long and hard. I think, in some respects, that you are right; in others, in error, but entirely too harsh… *psssttt- It’s “Race Traitor”, not Trader- and for you to be called that IS Racist…

    • Actually it depends on who is calling you that and where you are in the world Mimi! Here in AZ they us Trader but in CA they use Traitor!!! I’ve been called both! Lol!

      • A trader trades a traitor is not the same except that you mis spelled it and move on I don’t think you are any one person can speak for us all but the ones who try are usually the ones that are disconnected!

      • It depends on what part of the Country on which term is used…. And as for speaking for all of you…… it depends on what side of the fence you sit on……. Disconnection can also be viewed from both sides as well…..

      • Please delete my. Email address. Thank you

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      • Obviously you do not get what I am saying. It wasn’t misspelled it was exactly as intended. Trader as in “trading your race for another” or Traitor as in “Picking another race over your own”. As I said it depends on where you are from. Also, you would be making the same mistake that you claim I made (even though I didn’t say I was representing ALL BLACKS). You are speaking for all Black people in your responses as well………

  3. Nice article too bad the mainstream media wont touch this subject.

  4. Adrian Claybrooks

    I am glad you see the truth and are not blind to reality. I am nonnegative statistic African that lives in America and i dont undetstand why i am the only black man in a lot of my college courses. Our people avoid college and marriage like its a disease!

  5. Hi Kuulume. I love your article. I am trying to share it on my Facebook but don’t seem to be winning. I am South African and we are dealing with exactly the same issues here, on both fronts.

    • I am glad to hear you like the article! Try copy and pasting the address where you want to share it! You may have an easier time that way! :)

  6. I am a 2nd generation italian/ sammarinese american. Your husband’s a very lucky man to have a woman like you. your dead on right, the socialist agenda of big govt. entitlements only preserves poverty, breaks up families and holds all americans buying into it, back from a rewarding life of pride and contentment. Black americans like you are blessing to this country and the real americans that actually care about black communities and our country; others just tell blacks to keep buying into the system that only hurts and binds them deeper into govt slavery and poverty. if you get a chance read thomas sowell and milton friedman.

  7. This woman has a slave mentality herself and doesn’t realize it, poor thing.

    • Please explain your opinion Nadia. Don’t just do a hit an run insult please. I gave explanation of my views……….

    • I thought that when I read this as well!!

      The author fell into her own “trap” here:

      “To say there is racism today isn’t really a topic that I myself like to focus on because I’ve only felt it from my fellow Black Americans. I have never been called a nigger from a white person yet I have been called an Uncle Tom because of my political views, my way of speaking (because I don’t speak Ebonics and went to College), and a Race Trader because I am married to a Caucasian man and have a Mulatto child. Now I ask you, who are the racists?????”

      House slave, v. Field-hand, huh?

      Wow… the duality of this is just….. wow. Racism is not exempt from either side, and they are not mutually exclusive. It’s like institutional racism never has/still doesn’t exist, and the article smacks of the often false-premised “bootstrap” theory.

      The black folk the author “runs into” may have the “slave mentality” but it seems that she does as well…

      • Slave mentality, no. What was being explained in the piece was that while I haven’t experienced racism from whites, I have experienced it from other Blacks. Other Blacks tend to dislike Blacks like me because they think people like me are “too white” or “not Black enough”. It is a very hypocritical thing to do. A lot of Blacks tend to say they want to be successful and move up out of the ghetto, yet make fun of those who do. Reverse racism is still racism…… You might want to research a little about what exactly Slave Mentality is……

      • Mmmmmm…. Ya. It seems that the House Slave v. Field Negro is a concept unknown to you.

        You see, as a college educated black man and small business owner, myself, I find it funny that SOME of the things you say are true, however you fail to realize you are treating the peoples who wont and never had the chances you did with disdain because of their color…. and you are the same color as we are!!

        Your comments leave no accounting for the educational disparity, none for the good-ole’-boy network, none for the infrastructure differences (and lack thereof…) and nothing for the myriad of other disadvantages for black folk. Lack of job training, effective policing of our neighborhoods, dismantling of pre and after school study programs, and this is the extra-short list.

        Currently I am in a mentoring program in the inner city. I grew up in the suburbs and have a unique perspective on the situation, I actually moved into the city to help, not abandon it, as sooooooo many of our brothers and sisters have.

        Despite the treatment of yourself by other black folks, why not try to bring your perspective to the inner-city to help other black folks?? People helping other people…. THATS the way we bring ourselves out of where we are, not some magical “identity shift” in values…

      • Please delete me from your mailing.Thank You.

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      • You have to do that from your end. If you signed up for the blog, you can take yourself off…….

      • You assume things when you should not. I too am college educated, mentor, and have my own businesses. I never stated that things could not be turned around for the Black Community or any other Community in this piece. This piece was not about what I am doing to help. That’s a whole different piece as I do a lot of different things in the community and it would be a very long piece. Try not to psychoanalyze a person you do not know personally like that. It could have you eating crow……

  8. Greetings Kuuleme I realize love is colorblind and that we are all humans but for the life of me as a African American male I will never understand how African American women,whose female ancestors were raped by white men for hundreds of years can fall in love with Caucasian men.Is it selective amnesia,rejection of African American men, the power to be colorblind and judge people by the content of their character? or is it subconscious slave mentality? ps You state that you have a mulatto child.Did you know that derogatory word was created by the the French to designate MULE a byproduct of a horse and donkey?

    • Just your statement in itself was an ignorant one. You state that you realize love is colorblind then you go on to say you don’t understand “how African American women,whose female ancestors were raped by white men for hundreds of years can fall in love with Caucasian men” Black men rape Black women too you know…..It happens everyday here in the US, in Africa, and numerous other Countries. Black men (and men from other races) also call their women bitches and hoes and we all know those are derogatory terms. Blacks also use the derogatory word “nigga”, which is the same thing as nigger, when dealing with each other. It up to you if you want to be stuck in a color mind set. I choose not to be. As I am not a slave and never have been one, it would have nothing to do with amnesia. You must have lived through something for amnesia to occur. I wouldn’t call it rejection of Black men as much as it is wanting to be with someone regardless of color that have the same goals and mindset that I do. I myself wanted a mate who believes highly in education, is a Conservative or a Republican, is very well educated himself, works hard, was not a gang banger or drug dealer, who is a team player not a control freak, who treats me with respect, who is not an aspiring rap artist, does not speak Ebonics, has family values, Christian values, doesn’t sag their pants, volunteers to help and shares in the responsibilities, and just plain has the same goals and purpose in life as I do. Those attributes and many others I have not mentioned (because it would be a book) are very hard to find in Black men, as they are rare…..What I don’t understand is how so many Blacks are stuck in slavery when they did not live during that era and continue to blame people that had nothing to do with it because they didn’t live during that era either….. I will also never understand why Blacks continue to hinder themselves and focus on the color of their skin and not on their knowledge, skills, character, and other positive attributes…….

      • Hello,
        Just passing through, read your article and found it thought provoking. However, I take some offense to your generalization of Blacks. While I do recognize that some African Americans may have fallen victim to a slave mentality, it does not apply to all. I am an African American woman who attended a public school, and like most of my friends, who are Black/African American, we are successful. I am an attorney and my two best friends are: (1) an Engineer at Northrop Grumman; an (2) a Pediatrician. Perhaps your article could be a little more credible if it acknowledged that whites collect the greatest share of public dollars when discussing entitlements.

      • I could address the White Community, Hispanic Community, and all other communities that are non-Black, but….I was addressing the Black Community as it is the one I am apart of. I also don’t go with the thinking that all people are stupid, everyone knows that there are Blacks who don’t fall into the Slave Mentality or the Entitlement Mentality. People who think of all people in one group are truly ignorant no matter how much book knowledge they may have. Even as people read the statements that are made in my posting they tend to group people on their own, not because I am grouping all Blacks in a group. That would be ignorant of me to do so knowing that I myself am not one who has a Slave Mentality or an Entitlement Mentality. I myself am very accomplished as well and I wish people would get out of the thinking that it must apply to them because someone wrote it down. People say things everyday of our lives, so if it doesn’t apply to you then you should not take offense. Thank you for your input though.

      • I always find it funny when people say I’m the one generalizing. I stated things in this piece about the Blacks I grew up around. It would be you who made the generalization…..not me…….Had I said “All Blacks worldwide” then that would be a different story……

  9. wow…I am amazed by your insight. I am a white conservative woman who is married to a black man whose father ACTUALLY was from Africa. He is all of those things you said your white husband is and cannot stand the slave mentality. His “African American” friends(hate that term, I am not Anglo American) think HE Is racist as he refuses to demean himself by using those “black man” stereotypes, AND he hates Ebonics. Guess what? He is VERY successful too, so the mind over matter really does work guys! You are a brilliant woman and I applaud you tremendously.

  10. Also you you have to understand that the progressive democrats fuel the fire of both mentalities you mentioned. Feeding on peoples fears is what keeps them in power and the ignorant in mental and economic bondage. Sure there are racist white people and there will always be just like any other races that have racist among them.

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  12. this whole debate is pointless like wtf r u guys going to do about it im in a big brother program to embed hope in this frivolous race, simply put black people just dont give a phuck having a “good” time is top priority appropriate or not.

    IAM BLACK BUT SHOW NO SYMPATHY TOWARD THE NUMEROUS BLACK MALES INCARCERATED OR THOSE WHO INDULGED IN THE “QUICK” BUCK METHOD TO SUSTAIN AN WORK EQUAL INCOME THATS WHAT SCHOOL WAS FOR & Futhermore y vote for a black president just to take advantage of the beefed up welfare system, systems like that should only b alloted to dire need candidates but im getting off track what im saying is blacks are aware of the various benefits to better their future horizon but like i said b4 they just dont give a phuck.

  13. Your article reflects a certain naite about the workings of America. Is there a greater entitlement than “white privilege?” Have Black Americans established institutions to recover and heal themselves from the trauma and residues of institutionalized slavery? Is the Justice system just, or is it rigged to protect the social status quo?
    What does it mean to be a conservative independent? Are you a social assimilator or a collaborator, a protagonist or a player hater? In my experiences as a business consultant, community activist and working within Black communities across the country, I find that Blacks tend to be fiscal conservatives, social progressives, and politically ignorant, particularly about the history of social movements that shaped change in social structures..
    There is as much diversity in opinions and beliefs (e.g., religious fundamentalists) within the Black community as there are in the rest of America. Your references to “entitlements” discounts how many govt sanctioned opportunities are rarely offered or taken advantage of by its Black citizens. Corporate and Agricultural welfare in this country is an abomination, but gets little press. Clearly, in this case what you don’t know can hurt you.
    As a Navy officer, I discovered that I could take advantage of subsidized travel, housing, education, and entry into very cushy post-military, and highly paid positions. The economic differences are often distinguished by limited access.
    Your article fails to recognize the importance of understanding the game of navigating through the multi-layered social/economic/political systems that have been created by whites to benefit whites. Until we master the game and develop counter strategies, we shall continure to fall short of full equality.
    I concur that we need to get of the racism train. To expect white males to relinquish their role as “kings of the hill” is stupidity at best and insanity as its worse. Black leaders have a responsibility to shift form “tin cupping” to creating sustainable systems and processes to benefit and promote our own self interests.

    • I was also in the Navy, but I was enlisted! I don’t think the White community per say, needs to relinquish anything. That will happen on it’s own as more Blacks get involved. I didn’t hit on a lot of things in this as I was trying to keep the reading to a minimum. Often if you put too much in a post, people lose interest in what they are reading. I may hit on some of the points you made in the future though!

    • I felt this…wow..now heres a thinker..I feel this !

      • Are you sure it is I that have been assimilated??? Or are you just going off of what you were taught and not researching for yourselves??? Assimilation works both ways you know……..

  14. This blog is right on target. I am a white female that has a black fiance and I am around a lot of members in the black community. I have noticed that the vast majority of blacks have a chip on their shoulder and are expectant or believe they deserve different treatment because they are black. I completely agree with you if the black community wants to move past “oppression” then you have to start within. I have a friend who’s husband went into a Golf store to purchase something. He said that he noticed black people shopping but none working. He went home and turned right around and called the store asking why there are no black people working there. He claims that the white person on the phone said “because black people don’t know anything about golf” He was prepared to cal the NAACP. Really? Why are you looking to stir up trouble? Why there are plenty of businesses owned by black people that don’t hire whites but that is okay. Not to mention I’m pretty sure a Golf store is aware of TIGER WOODS. In addition, why is it that black people have their own award ceremonies but can still participate in white ceremonies? Blacks are still segregating themselves. It is really a shame. Maybe it is because you are educated and are also understand the white community. I don’t know what it is but it is definitely time to move on. My fiance is educated and views things the way you do. I truly believe that if more blacks took the chip off their shoulder that they would find the majority of the world looks at them as equals. Yes slavery was a horrible thing. No question about it but it has been over for a while. It is time to move on. We enjoyed your blog very much. Keep up the great work representing your race in such a positive light.

    • Time to move on? Chip on a shoulder? Segregating ourselves?! How dare you even think to compare what this system has done to the black community to us having a seperate award show or attempting to build businesses in areas where the system won’t go because it’s been deemed valueless. You sound so vague and thoughtless in your analysis. Ok great you have a black husband, good job you’ve done your good deed for us blacks in taking one us in huh. Terrible! You wouldn’t even be able to fathom the things that black people in this nation have to put up with on a daily basis. The odd looks you receive when you walk in a high end store, the assumptions that are continually made that you are lazy or the fact that you are asked if you are an intern constantly as if you don’t look like you could be working for that organization. Personally, I’ve had so much happen that I don’t even notice the apprehension of white women when I’m on an elevator or the looks I receieve when I walk social club that I’m member off. It hurts sometimes and makes you feel like you don’t belong as if you are tying to in the first place. This is more than slavery. Whether you wanna believe it or not, your mind has been brainwashed into believing that there’s been a healing cause we have a black president and that black people can live in the suburbs or we can go eat and shop in the same places as you. Passification is what it is . The psychological effects of the many years of enslavement coupled with the reconstruction era and years to follow has created a way of thinking that compels people to feel that they have a privilege to not have to respect another group or write off their problems as “oh get over, you are free now.” We never asked or begged America for a Damn thing, all we ever desired was a fair shake. A chance to start at the same place that white America did, hell at least some access to capitol. Do some research on little Africa in Tulsa Ok. Or rosewood in Florida. Oxford north carolina. Wilmington, NC. Stir up trouble? So it’s perfectly fine for a representative to say black people don’t know about golf and its fine? To move pass oppression you have to stop being oppressed! And don’t think that because your white the same thing can’t happen or effect you. If you don’t have kids, have a son in this country who clearly isn’t white and you let me know how his day to day life goes. Before you speak, understand what exactly the problem is to begin with.

      • Please! The Democrat Party teaches minorities to beg everyday! You weren’t a slave so don’t talk to me about the effects it has on the mind! People either choose to succeed or live off of others! Think before you speak here!

      • You know it’s ok that you respond that way because I know you won’t understand. I don’t support the democratic party because they enable people period. You ma’am are the exact reason why people think the way they do. Your privilege is showing. I’ve done very well in my life but I will not forget what has occured in the past and the things the happen to through everthting I’ve accomplished. You say I wasn’t a slave and I can’t speak on its effect so because you aren’t black don’t tell me what to get over. Ok? The facts are there whether you want consign those facts to oblivion or not. You need to rationalize your thinking and be more analytical cause your analyis is full of fallacies and factless information.

    • I was actually repspondinf to Lily but it’s funny that you responded the same way as that privleged white women did. Even in my response to your last comment, thought it was her. Wow. You’ve just proved a lot to me.

  15. This is such a vague opinion…you have already been asimulated and your thought process has been carved….very emothional and self center thinker you are!

  16. Chattel slavery began in Babylon circa 1772 BC. See Code of Hammurabi. White Slavic Eastern Europeans were enslaved by the Romans (Slav is the origin of the term slave).Muslim Arabs enslaved White Europeans circa 1500 to 1800. White europeans were enslaved in Colonial America by the English from 1640 to 1780. Not to be confused as Indentured Servants. They were the predecessors of the African slave trade in the Americas.

  17. I am authentically black, and have been accused of not being black enough on more than one occaision, I appreciate these words and discovering that there are a few more folks that think and lean more to the right and can appreciate lending a helping hand and expecting a helping hand to be given in return.

  18. Elizabeth (Becka) Nadow

    Kuuleme,
    Thank you for an insightful and intelligent piece. I was originally introduced to this topic by reading the editorial pieces in our local paper by Star Parker. As a mwf who grew up in the countryside, I don’t always understand the challenges faced by those in inner cities of different races, but I want to. I want to be able to converse intelligently about the problems, and to educate my children and grandchildren to be fair minded and color blind individuals

    I’d like to point out that not only Blacks, but all children today are faced with an entitlement mindset, and they all need to understand that they aren’t ‘owed’ anything by anyone besides love and support from their parents. It’s our job as parents to mold them into healthy, responsible, and productive members of society.
    Thank you again, BN

  19. Your article really hit the nail on the head about today’s Entitlement Society. I grew up in Northern California during the 70’s and I honestly don’t recall there being any real racism in my world. Now, my parents, who grew up in the South during the 1940’s had a different experience. I know that, historically, Blacks have had it bad when it comes to racism, but that wasn’t my experience – the Blacks I knew then and know now are hard working people who aren’t defined by the color of their skin. That is not to say they are not proud of their heritage and who they are – they are proud – they just don’t fall into the trap of thinking they are owed something more, or get anything less, than the rest of the people in the world. What I think that most of us can agree on, is that when Obama took office, we expected it to finally put racism to bed once and for all (for the sane people!). Instead, race relations are worse than I’ve seen in my entire life! I see a man who has absolute power to put his foot down and call for an end – to bring people of all colors together as Americans – and yet, he instead, he refuses! In fact, not only is he enflaming old racial tensions, he is deliberately creating racism in places it never even existed! What I am seeing in your comment section, are people who are looking for any little nit-picky thing to resist the truth. And PS: Black people don’t corner the market on slavery. I had white ancestors who were slaves or indentured servants. In fact I could find a whole string of injustices done to my ancestors that I could use if I wanted to be a victim – but that would only enslave me.

  20. Excellent post! I had never heard of you before tonight, but I will be following your posts from here on out. God bless you, and keep up the good work.

  21. Wow, seems that some of the argumentative/negative responses in some aspects kind of make your point for you.

  22. I think I understand the direction in which you intend. A part of me also believes that somewhere along the lines you dont understand the true problems of the black community. Thats okay because not everyone does. In fact its a mistake we make too often on trying to diagnose and have the solution to problems we have little to no understanding about.
    To say that the black community is the only party responsible for our modern entitled mentalities, I would say is unfair. You talk about the constant deterioration of the black communities and how we let the influence of the media, and propaganda influence our goals, but have you ever sat to think about who it is that advocates and promotes these thoughts and ideas? Did you know that Since 1995, the number of companies owning commercial TV stations declined by more than 40 percent. There are only three media giants who own all of cable network broadcasting. How many out of the three do you think are black, or any other “minority” race in America.
    I agree that our parents play a major part in promoting and advocating our children to do whats “right” but the parents are not the only ones. In modern living, Media raises our children and so does society. We cannot always be there to protect our children from witnessing the realities within society so instead we must prepare them for it when they come across it so that they will understand what is going on and know how to react.Thats why once or maybe not you’ve heard the cliche “it takes a village to raise a child.”
    In order to understand the characteristics of the black community you must understand the characteristics within the circumstances of their past. You have to know the history behind any people to understand them. History tells a people where they have been, and what they have been. History tells a people where they are and who they are. It is a fact that most of the population in America are not indigenous to this land. We come from another place. And for most black people we never benefited the luxury of knowing where we come from and who we really are. Im quite sure you know that families were sold off separately and they never saw each other again. So over time you adapt to your living circumstances and you learn to survive. So circumstantially for blacks it was normal to be separated as a family because it Had to be. Now just because a few laws changed and forced people to act a certain way does not negate the problems that were and still are in existence. You say you have never been called a nigger and such by a white person. Not one bone in my body denies that. How many people do you think would have the courage to call a black person a nigger to their face and be willing to live up to being labeled a “racist”? Because being a racist is not a norm in todays society. Of course no person in their right mind is going to jeopardize their reputation in that manner. Oh, thats another thing too, reputation we have this concept that we have to protect it and we do not want any kind of malice to be acknowledged in respects to our reputation. I feel comfortable to say that us Americans try to ignore the fact that slavery did take place and eventually will try to erase it out of history. The slavery act is not a part of the academic curriculum today. If the statement is not the least bit true then why do we get so defensive and hostile when the subject of slavery is brought up., blaming african americans for “dwelling in the past” than actually acknowledging the event.
    When the french gave the statue of liberty to pay homage to the slaves they couldn’t then bear the sight of an african face on display in the middle of their beloved city so even then they carved out a new face for her. And the oppression does not stop. Yea i agree we now have more opportunity some in a good way and others not so much. But for a black person who for centuries were accustomed to living with the slave mentality, without the proper guidance, will not know how to take advantage of these opportunities in the correct and most efficient manner. A peoples mentality is not something that changes overnight, our process of thinking is developed while we are children. Very much i think the blacks are apart of the downfall to the black community but only by not understanding the events and the meaning behind what took place then and today. How ever white people play a role just as important for putting black people in those circumstances. Many may argue that black people sold their own people as slaves which is true but we must understand the type of slavery at the time that was practiced. Being sold into slavery was a punishment like the service that jails are supposed to serve today except you were treated like a human being and not forced to live by cruel and unusual circumstances. Americans twisted the whole concept of slavery when they returned to the land and there were no telephones, no email, no international postal service for the slaves then to report the treatment being endured. Further into the forced living circumstances of the black people once slavery did end we can be sure that white people did nothing to help re socialize black people. Black people did not even get a clean slate. We couldn’t even get clean water. People are still living who witnessed those “coloreds only” and “whites only” signs. Don’t forget, slavery did not end because they jut woke up one day and sought it to be immoral and unusual treatment to the black peoples. Slavery was ended because it jeopardized their jobs. With live in slaves to farm the land they were then producing more crops than the people could buy. Nobody had jobs because people had slaves. So, the argument was to get rid of your slaves. We can not be so quick to point the finger at our own people, we should rather try to further understand the problems at hand and do what we can to ensure ourselves and our children not become engulfed to the simplistic process of critical thinking. No more just pointing the finger cause thats something we all have every body has problems but a reason lies behind every circumstance. Think about it, If you had no one to lead you to become educated or support you to stay positive do you honestly think you could have made it as easily or at all to the state in which you are able to criticize the characteristics of a society in which you share genetic background.

  23. Some of what you say makes alot of sense, but somethings i question, like, do you believe racism goes both ways? Is it possible that some blacks do get dealt a bad hand because of how other blacks act and how can we fix our race?

    • Racism definitely goes both ways. Yes i do believe that some blacks don’t get the benefit of the doubt, but a lot of that is because of how fast the rate of decline and destruction of black culture is happening. Most whites like myself are not racist, but rather want to see black american countrymen to start pulling there own weight and adding to our country. I root for blacks to wake up and see how they’re being played and have been by democrats, especially liberals. It’s a rarity to see black men with families or caring for their children these days, whether when i was living in Buffalo or outside of it. As a born-again Christian, i believe a lot black brothers and sisters say they are christians, but don’t vote it or live it accordingly, not casting any stones I’m not perfect either, but my principals are that of the my lord and savior Christ Jesus. I was discriminated out of a Buffalo police job, Mayor Brown told me he had to throw out the civil service test due to not enough black applicants, so did i give up and wait for help, no i went to school, paid by taking loans out to be a nurse where i am the minority now, which is smart. I want my God, family, and countrymen to be proud of me and see that i care about our country and about serving the Lord. The only way for ANY culture to fix itself (and it has to be that way, if whites try to help and tell the truth like i have, i and they will get attacked verbally or even physically like i have- the truth hurts) is to live the Lord’s principals; education(especially scriptural)(my people are destroyed for their lack of knowledge), ambition, get back to family life- marry a decent person and stay married and raise your children, get back to a strong mentality that says I will work hard and earn everything and not wait for it to be given to me or steal it through welfare ( i was raised with this old notion that nobody owes you nothing, you must earn it, this is biblically sound doctrine even though i was not raised christian). People like Malcolm X, even though having hatred in his heart in his early years, constantly told other blacks to go and get educated and get off the govt. handout and trap, to be self sufficient. Black americans must learn to be independent and not dependent on others, when the system crashes and theirs no more money left for welfare, and the dollar crashes, who do you think is going to be screwed the most?

      I say all this sincerely out of love for all my countrymen, please take it as this and not hatred of any kind. To be honest i believe white liberals are the most destructive people in this country, they fuel the destruction of old black culture that black freedmen fought and died for. Sincerely, Tony.

  24. you were doing so well until, “a love for God,” Why did you throw that in there. Especially when you talk about what we teach our children. Christianity came to the black community via slavery. You want to espose clear thinking and common sense, yet fall, yourself, into old traps.

    With or withour religion or a belief in a god, is irrelevant. Family values are just what they are. Teaching your kids to work hard for what they want. To never surrender to the nay sayers and to think critically are attributes that transcend any belief system. These are just good habits to ensure a fruitful life.

    Besides that though; great job! I love it when I hear my people scream, “Don’t sterotype me!” Yet when the retro jordans came out a few years ago, I’d have to make a rouch guess-timate that at least 70-80% of people waiting inline where black americans. Cross reference that with demographics from poverty stricken areas and well….we only mention the things that we see.

  25. As a black medical student, I face racism often. And many of my friends black lawyers and other professionals do as well. You may be correct to say that the black community needs help…but for you to deny racism is crazy!!!!

  26. So true great read

  27. I believe you are racist toward your own ppl you my dear have the house nigger mentality.Dont be so quick to judge a people trying to find themselves in a country not of their own . Every other races uplifts and guides each other while the black race likes to down each other and act as if they are the only smart blacks around when they get a little ahead in life. Empower your ppl i dont that wil come from u u probably have issues with your color and made sure your offspring were not born dark. You are not special honey i know a few geniuses living in the projects not discovered. if your are black u are ashamed to be so eventually life will show u what u are to brainwashed to see. Your are what Willie Lynch was aiming for divide and conquer all black ppl arent ghetto the ones that are should still be embraced all evolution takes time.I grew up in the projects and was teased for playing the violin they dont know better whites uphold whites even white trash blacks come up and look down on others and the youth thats why they are lost. You are not elite or in a class of your own…but i pity you ..you are misguided just in the opposite way of the black misfits you speak of

    • Racist against my own people? Really? Now that is funny considering I work within the Black Community to help my community! Also, my skin may be dark pigmented, but I am of many races. I am an American first and foremost.

  28. Excellent article, and well written. I notice there are some who are disparaging what you’ve shared. I’m afraid too many people are prisoners of their own minds. They refuse to peer out and accept new ideas, or even old ideas that have not been expressed by a black woman. I am a white man who is far from prejudiced. I have a black Goddaughter, and her father and I have been good friends for over 40 years. However, the tone of racial relations today seems to be far worse that I’ve ever seen them. I will not get into politics and how I feel about whom, I believe, has fostered unrest between the races. As a public school employee, I see kindergarten and first grade black children with attitudes and distain for anyone white. This type of behavior is learned at home. I agree totally with what you said about the parents needing to step up and giving those children a chance. Unless it changes, the blacks in this country will remain “slaves” of their own design.

  29. White racism doesn’t have anything to do with the situation black people are in huh?…first of all lets understand what racism REALLY is and the motive behind it. Most people think of white people not wanting to sit next to us on the bus or calling us a niggers is racism. Those things are just BYPRODUCTS of the real thing. Racism is about using and exploiting a race of people to generate WEALTH for another race of people. We as Africans were made into slaves not because white people just hated us…it was about PROFIT and POWER at the expense of our people. With that being said, when you look into america and you see that white people have by far the most wealth (98% of it in america to be exact) how much do you think slavery has to do with that? What do you think happened to all of that WEALTH the white population generated from slavery? Did it just vanish? Lol…We live in a country where the white population owns and controls EVERYTHING and you can’t understand how it could be possible for black people to be systematically kept down?…I’m willing to bbet my LIFE that YOU didn’t grow up in the ghetto and have no real idea of how difficult it is to escape from that. You sweetheart have the SLAVE MENTALITY. You have the SAME ideologies as WHITE RACISTS about black people and if you don’t see any issue with that it just proves my point even further

    • Anyone can be a racist and it doesn’t matter what color you are. People of the same race are even racist towards the own. For example Africans don’t care too much for American Blacks as they see us as spoiled and snotty. Also, careful when you want to call out someone you don’t know. I was indeed brought up in the ghetto. I wasn’t born with a silver spoon in my mouth. I work hard for everything I get, and I don’t let the color of my skin be an excuse for personal failure. What I do have is some common damn sense, which apparently it seems to have overlooked you…..

      • I’m married to an African woman so you can’t GENERALIZE about African people from the continent…also the reason for some africans dislike africans in america is because they buy into SAME ideology people like you buy into…this concept that the main cause for the stuggle amonst us in america is laziness and some innate problem that has NOTHING to do with WHITE SUPREMACY and white domination and control of pretty EVERY social institution in our lives…the problem is when you look into this world and see that the white population is doing much better than blacks collectively, you attribute it to some moral righteousness and hard work ethic possessed by the white population. Subsiquently you look at the position we as africans in America are in and atrribute it to some LACK of work ethic and morals and that if we could just be more like white people everything would be ok. You my dear have been MANIPULATED into buying into the concept of white supremacy…I don’t blame you though because this pyschological warfare is present in our lives from the day we are born. You have been mislead into believing that the cause of whites doing so much better than us is because of some moral supremacy while COMPLETELY missing the FACT that europeans have historically STOLE from and EXPLOITED every other group in this world…particularly AFRICAN people…you should read the miseducation of the negro by carter d woodsen (the person responsible for black history month)…also I challenge u to name me ONE book that supports your ideology and I give you my WORD I will buy it and read it

      • *subsequently

  30. Hi Kuuleme. Great piece. I love your writing. I was so drawn into your words, and I could see truth in most of the things you stated. I commend you for your bravery to speak out against the entitlement mentality in the Black community. I see things from multiple perspectives, and that perspective differs depending on the level of education and social status of those involved. The issues your bring up are not unique to the Black race. The same identical entitlement mentalities exist, in my opinion, mainly in women of all nationalities. Women hate on each other the hardest, especially when one seems to be excelling at a higher pace than the next. I own a marketing company, and I encounter people of all races, genders, and socioeconomic classes, and I notice the exact same behaviors, no matter the color. For example, there is always an ignorant, arrogant, pompous person who thinks he/she is too good. There are people who think I am supposed to give my products or services for free, as though I owe them something. The Welfare system has things messed up for women because so many things are just given freely by the government, allowing them to sit around and wait for a hand-out. Well, I really wish that people everywhere could dump that “help-a-******-out mentality, and pick up a go-getter mentality. I’ve been owning my own business since I was 15, and I learned how to write grants as a way to alleviate poverty. I grew up in Chicago’s most infamous housing projects, and witnessed so much Black-on-Black, human-against-human crime, that it sickens me. I was fortunate enough to move away to another state, and study alongside people of all races. I realize that all humans have the same desires and needs. We really should stop judging one another, and just be whoever you believe yourself to be. Stop worrying about what the next person thinks about you, and just live life to the fullest. My mother died at the age of 47, and I know that life is short. If we waste time arguing over race, then we will miss out on a real human experience. I could care less if I am called a field **** or a house **** because I don’t respond to ignorance. Sometimes when people say derogatory things to me, I ignore it and literally look the other way. When you react to people’s negativity, you have allowed them to have power and control over your actions. You are the only one who can control you. Give away your power if you wish, and you will be in a whole heap of trouble. I am speaking in general to all people who are reading this post, no matter what you look like on the outside. To me, I am all races, because I am human race, first and foremost. The Universe is connected, and what we do in America affects the rest of the world. What happens in the Black community affects the rest of the world, so we should stop isolating everyone and start including others, who are interested in advancing the Black race. I am proud to say that I am a self-sufficient entrepreneur, who no longer subscribes to entitlement programs in America. I don’t believe anyone owes me anything, but I believe I owe myself. I owe myself enough to educate myself so that I might continue to educate my children and others.

  31. Yet another who wants to speak on a community she abandoned. But that entitlement is taught out west and at PWI so this position of yours does not suprise me. You followed Barry’s philosophy aka POTUS. Goood job!!!

    • Who said I abandoned it? I still work within my community! Talk about what you know as fact please!

      • Ms. Stephens. I am most impressed with your views and your values. I know a number of black people. One of my dearest friends and former co-worker, his daughter (my Goddaughter), his sister-in-law (a renowned Gynecologist (ever read “the Ditch Digger’s Daughters? She’s one of them). All of whom have been very successful. My Goddaughter is a clinical therapist in California. Yet, when I talk to them, they still embrace that “black (my race before anything) mentality. My Goddaughter (who, in many ways, is whiter than I, and has almost never encountered racism) and her aunt are big Obama supporters. I don’t understand how intelligent, successful people, regardless of race, can still be sucked in by the “race thing.” So, to me, it’s very refreshing to read your views. Thank you. I can only imagine how difficult it is for you to maintain your values and beliefs in the face of a herd mentality.

  32. Very well written piece, more strength to your pen.

  33. Loved your article. The only way people can do well in life is through holding themselves responsible for their actions and realizing the world doesn’t owe them anything.

    73% of African American families are being run by single mothers, 73%. That statistic alone tells you there is a problem. I believe marriage, abstinence (with comprehensive sex education), and social pressure to do well in school are the 3 things that really need to be implemented by the Black community for the Black community. They would make a world of difference both in the immediate present and in the long term future.

  34. Thank God somebody gets it! I have never in my life used the N word more than some of the people in my school! They even try to encourage me to say it!

  35. I would read your blog to completion if it weren’t for the fact that I have heard this before on several occasions throughout my life. I just wanted to know if black people have the same kind of ‘inalienable’ entitlement mentality whites have. but of course we don’t, as a whole. but could we ever, and if so then would it be right in that every thing we do is questioned for its legitimacy. and if it could theoretically exist, would it be still a separate but equal condition. this is my quandary about our evolution into white society or because of it.

  36. Before you say that the problems of the black community are our problems, know the root and reason as to why the problem even exist. Upon doing that understand the deep and entangled effects don’t be so quick to pass it off as simply being a victim. Understanding is Key, agreeing is ok but understanding must be achieved to real grasp a situation and its reason for even existing. What you have done is tapped the surface and made a hasty analysis. Not acceptable

    • Since you think you know all the answers, why didn’t you put them here in your reply?

      • Never said I have all the answers. I take You as a logically thinking person who can quantify the words and thoughts that you convey. So maybe you and I can dialogue on level of working together to achieve a path to finding a solid and tangible solution or even a plan. You have my email.

  37. What a intelligent , reasonable , common sense approach to the race problem … Thank you young lady for standing up with truth and honesty .. For it is only through truth and honesty can any race save themselves …

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